Sunday, December 18, 2011

The Adventure of the Amazing Posse and the Girl in the Red Bug

I have been really missing my posse lately, my “besties,” my girls ~ the ones who know me, know me and love me in spite of me. What’s a girl to do without her posse? With age, increasing responsibilities and decreasing time, relationships of all sorts can be challenging to maintain. Challenging...but yet completely worth it. They are a life support, so to speak. That connection with the ones that know you like no other, the ones you laugh with, the ones you cry with, and the ones - who at 46 years old you can still pile onto bed with, on a girls weekend, and talk into the night, just as you did when you were teenagers. 
This got me thinking, what can I do to bridge the gap of time differences, geographic locations, family and work responsibilities? You know, the basic day-to-day life that gets in the way of relationships, in general.
Until Daylight Savings Time, my friend Karen and I would talk in the early morning, on our commutes to work. She is in California and I am in Arizona and it worked out perfectly. I would get my coffee, get on the phone, and the commute didn’t seem so long.  It felt like I was sitting and having coffee with one of my most treasured friends. Since the time change, our chats have been more sporadic and I miss my early morning talks. What a wonderful way to start my day. It’s challenging to get that dedicated time to talk and connect, without interruption, or rushing to the next thing on our To Do List. 
So, back to my "what I can I do to bridge the gap?” Be more organized! Yes, it is true...organization is the key to everything! I want to set specific time aside to set-up a call with my friends. Instead of just calling when it is convenient for me, or on the fly, establish a consistent day and time to talk - just as I would if we were in the same state and we were going to lunch, or coffee. Make a date, so-to-speak!  Also, I don’t want to limit my connections just to telephone conversations, I want to be better about sending notecards throughout the year - you know that good old-fashioned, handwritten correspondence (this will also help out our US Postal Service!). What is better than getting a note in the mail from someone!? 

What are your thoughts on bridging the gap? How do you, or will you, connect with those that are important to you?
Truly giving of ourselves and connecting with others is one of the greatest gifts we not only give ourselves, but others as well. So who do you want to give your first gift to? Take a moment to connect with someone.

Until then...The Girl in the Red Bug





1 comment:

  1. Thanks for inspiring me to be more organized and reminding me to take more time to do the things that really matter!! Ericka U :)

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